What is Wrong with My Relationship?

Living with your boyfriend can bring both joy and challenges. However, there are moments when emotions and physical well-being suffer. If you find that every time he's around, you feel emotionally and physically drained, but relax and find peace once he leaves, you're not alone. This feeling, although uncomfortable, often stems from deeper spiritual and relational issues that may require attention.

Understanding the Underlying Causes

These feelings of exhaustion and discomfort can be rooted in several factors, including, but not limited to, spiritual struggles. If you are engaging in sinful behavior outside of marriage, such as premarital sex, it can cause physical and emotional fatigue. Additionally, unresolved feelings and boundaries within your relationship can contribute to this state of being.

Addressing Sin and Repentance

Proverbs 28:14 warns, 'Whoever conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and renounces them will obtain mercy.' This verse emphasizes the importance of admitting our sins and seeking godly guidance for healing and restoration. God's Word, the Bible, offers guidance for transforming our lives and relationships. Often, these struggles are seen as God's way of convicting us to turn away from sinful practices and repentance.

Conviction and Spiritual Gain

The feeling of emotional and physical drain is often a sign of God's Holy Spirit urging you to change. As Romans 2:29 teaches, 'But a person is a Jew who is one inwardly; and circumcision is a matter of the heart, by the Spirit, not by the letter.' This passage speaks to the conviction in your soul that tells you to make changes. The Holy Spirit wants you to turn away from sinful habits and come closer to God.

Steps to Spiritual Transformation

To begin this journey, start with the Book of Romans in the New Testament. Reading Romans will help you understand God's love, His call for righteousness, and forgiveness. Additionally, consider the following:

Start Reading Romans: Get a good New Testament Bible, such as the New King James Version or a Gideon Bible, and start reading regularly. Call on Jesus: Pray to Jesus right now and ask Him to help you understand and follow God's path. Connect with a Church: Find a church that aligns with the complete word of God, such as a Baptist church, and stay connected for spiritual guidance and support. Participate in women's classes to help with your journey.

Additional Resources

To enhance your spiritual journey, consider the following books:

Liquid Streams: Charles Stanley - Written to help you understand emotions and find freedom in Christ. Steps to Freedom in Christ: Neil T Anderson - Focuses on overcoming sin and restoring a healthy relationship with Jesus. The Power of Praying for Your Adult Children: Stormy O. Martin - Offers insights into praying effectively for your loved ones.

Additionally, read the book of Psalms and Proverbs in the Old Testament for more practical guidance. Engaging with the Word of God will help you understand God's perspective on your situation and navigate through the challenges with God's wisdom.

Remember, it's a journey of personal transformation. Verses like John 3:3 and Romans 8:26-27 play a crucial role in this process.

In conclusion, facing and addressing the spiritual issues in your relationship can lead to greater peace and happiness. Let's embrace this path with God's guidance and support, not waiting but moving forward.